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Coping & Corona: With Tawny and Sam

Updated: 7 days ago


I wasn’t able to take the time to plan out the transition of this podcast from the Dirty Bits to Death is Hilarious like I wanted to. It’s been largely experimental and my listeners have been witness to what seems like a behind the scenes creative process, as I navigate my grief using various art forms like writing, comedy, podcasting, and performing.

It’s taken a few months and a few different formats to find my footing. I’ve had many different creative partners on this journey with me, but one of the most consistent partners has been my dear friend, Sam.


The loss of George has been really hard for Sam too and we began coping by channeling our grief into comedy… specifically by writing each other funny letters about how we’re dealing with not only death and loss but other traumas in our lives. Those letters are something I’d like to share with you on this show, Death is Hilarious, the podcast that documents one voice actor’s journey coping with the death of her husband using humor and dark comedy.


As COVID-19 ushers you into a world I’m all too familiar with, I hope you too can find some healing and relief in our version of radical acceptance - with stories, friendship, and lots of jokes.

In This Episode: My creative partner, Sam and I write each other letters in which we make jokes about grief, death, loss, and trauma. Neither Sam or I have seen the other’s letter before the episode.


CW: Death of a spouse, holidays without a spouse, angry tweeting, St. Patrick's Day, and peeps.

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Credits:

Created by Tawny Platis and Sam Peterson

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Editing: Matthew Ramirez - mjrinfl@gmail.com


Death Is Hilarious

The Podcast


"I married George, my soulmate, best friend, and the love of my life in August 2019. We started an audio production and entertainment company together, he was the editor and I was the voice-over talent. Our dream was to use these skills and our business to pursue our true passion- comedy. We released the Dirty Bits podcast in 2017 and were on our way to transitioning into producing the show full-time together.


But George was terminally ill. He had a congenital heart condition and a respiratory disease similar to tuberculosis that claimed his life in November of 2019 after months of trying to get his insurance to refer him to specialists who could have saved him.


In the six months leading up to his death, George was mostly homebound on 5 liters of oxygen a day and I was practicing social distancing. We worked together from home. It didn’t matter that I only left the house to do the grocery shopping and walk our little dog. I was with George, we were in comedy together, and the business was even growing. If he had been healthy, it would have been a pretty perfect life.


When he abruptly died in our home, I was overwhelmed by grief. I got incredibly sick with an ulcer from the stress of having to immediately go back to work. I had to do George’s job in addition to mine while sick and depressed. There are no safety nets in the United States for widows, especially young ones. I’ve received very little help while transitioning into a single income home in one of the most expensive cities in the nation. I’m in a constant state of financial uncertainty and stress because I’ve been largely on my own for four and a half months.


Now, as the COVID-19 epidemic rages on, the world is struggling to cope with a reality that has been mine for nearly a year- social distancing, loneliness, anxiety, financial insecurity, working from home… it’s all everything I’m used to. And I can’t help but feel for people who have never experienced anything even close to this before.


I myself had felt fairly unaffected by the coronavirus these past weeks... but I’d be lying if I said that sheltering in place while living alone hasn’t started taking a toll on me, as I’ve seen what few friends I have locally even less and less.


A heavy depression set in.


Then, American politicians like Dan Patrick suggested seniors should be willing to sacrifice their lives for what he deems the health of the economy.


And the President of the United States said he was planning on having the country functioning back to normal in about two weeks.


He went on to say;

"If it were up to the doctors, they may say, 'Let's keep it shut down. Let's shut down the entire world because again you're up to 150 countries,'" "So, let's shut down the entire world and when we shut it down, that'd be wonderful, and let's keep it shut for a couple of years. We can't do that," "This was a medical problem, we're not going to let it turn it into a long-term financial problem," "We're just not going to let it happen." "Death, you know, we’re talking about death, probably more death from that than anything we are talking about with respect to the virus.”


I went from depressed to angry in about half a second and began fantasizing about becoming the pissed off millennial’s answer to Katniss Everdeen.


And while I AM now in the midst of planning a revolution, I still need to cope with my grief along with everything else that comes along with the world’s current tom-fuckery.


That is, after all, why I started this podcast, Death is Hilarious: I had to get back to work shortly after my husband died and in order to do that, I had to cope with what was the end of my world. I wasn’t going to be able to do that if I continued to produce the show I had created with my late husband.


George and I shared a dark sense of humor. It’s what we used to cope with our often dark reality because if you can laugh at death, trauma, and tragedy, you can take away much of its power. That’s the power of dark comedy. It’s how I’ve survived thus far.


I wasn’t able to take the time to plan out the transition of this podcast from the Dirty Bits to Death is Hilarious like I wanted to. It’s been largely experimental and my listeners have been witness to what seems like a behind the scenes creative process, as I navigate my grief using various art forms like writing, comedy, podcasting, and performing.


It’s taken a few months and a few different formats to find my footing. I’ve had many different creative partners on this journey with me, but one of the most consistent partners has been my dear friend, Sam.


Sam’s not only written many of the Guided Meditation segments you’ll find on this feed, but they’ve also consulted on others like Monday Mourning Maisel and Entertaining Grief.


Beyond even all of that, we went to high school together, have worked on many artistic projects together, and Sam was the mutual friend who set up George and me.


The loss of George has been really hard for Sam too and we began coping by channeling our grief into comedy… specifically by writing each other funny letters about how we’re dealing with not only death and loss but other traumas in our lives. Those letters are something I’d like to share with you on this show, Death is Hilarious, the podcast that documents one voice actor’s journey coping with the death of her husband using humor and dark comedy.


As covid-19 ushers you into a world I’m all too familiar with, I hope you too can find some healing and relief in our version of radical acceptance - with stories, friendship, and lots of jokes."